I met with my ex not too long ago. He appears fine despite the fact that he is from a tropical country and sometimes gets depressed during the winter. He now lives in a northern climate with lots of snow and less sunshine.
Our conversation was going well. We were talking about current events. I was talking about work, which dominates most of my life until about a week ago. He talked about his work situation.
Apparently he met someone. She wanted to introduce him to her parents during the holidays. Wow. For the uninformed, meeting the parents is a big deal.
What shocked me was my lack of emotional response. What do you do when you find out that your ex has moved on and is dating other people? Surprisingly enough, I did not cry. I think the reason for my lack of emotional response is due to one of the following:
- Maybe I have been so busy that I have not processed it emotionally.
- Complete denial.
- I have processed it, and think it is about time he moved on.
- A combination of all of the above.
Maybe it is about time I got a personal life of my own. Someone I know told me all my stories involve my students.